#Isshetheone?
Hi all,
This post came a few days late, but I was inspired to write this post because of an event I saw a few days back.
After the jog around campus with my close friend, we met up with another classmate to head out for lunch. We went to big box as recommended by our friend and we had the set lunches that were on the menu there.
Long story cut short, after the meal, both of them made their way to the restrooms while I just loitered outside, awaiting their return. The restroom was beside the travelator, so as per my usual attentive self, I started observing the people on the travelator. It didn't take long for me to notice a presumably secondary school couple in uniform hugging on the travelator.
Now, I am not condemning their actions. That scene just sparked off the topic in me about relationships. You see, for those who know me, I have already been in and out of a few relationships back then when I was young and reckless. I recall me seeing how some schoolmates in Secondary School just switch in and out of partners in a matter of months.
Back then, I feel like being a part of that, I feel that I should also have a girlfriend since others are having it as well. However, now that I look back at it, it's just marks and wounds and scars etched all over my memory and those affected. In relationships, people pound over nice-looking people rather than looking further into personality differences. In relationships, you tend to think that you have to protect your "beloved" half, and provide what you can to make her happy, monetary and sleep rest damages can be sacrificed for them. But, what happens if the relationship is over? You simply press the reset button and hope that the love bubble bursts without leaving any trace? That is where the mistake of getting into a relationship deepens.
Now that I have matured, I realised that now is the time to embrace the single life. If you are not ready or feeling immature enough to get into a relationship, then source for other hobbies to get yourself busy with. A relationship is not a hobby, neither is it something you should play around with. You affect more than just yourself if it goes wrong. I would not say that I am a love guru, but at least I learn from my mistakes and not make them again.
However, when the chance arrives, what should you do?
Final year into Poly, the commitment I set for myself still stands, albeit with signs of it disappearing getting more and more obvious. I have a crush (Yes, have, not had. You get what I mean!) that I am attracted to, not by her looks, but rather, it started off with her unique name that I chanced upon. I don't know her well enough, but at the very least I can say, looks were never on my checklist. I do hope that I can get to know her better, so that at the very least, I know that I will not regret taking the first step at making friends with her. Well, that even depends on whether she allows me to be her friend hahahaha!
If you think you are the one, please do not approach me. I will approach you when I am ready to face you in person.
Till next time,
Ryan zibin
13 May 2016
This post came a few days late, but I was inspired to write this post because of an event I saw a few days back.
After the jog around campus with my close friend, we met up with another classmate to head out for lunch. We went to big box as recommended by our friend and we had the set lunches that were on the menu there.
Long story cut short, after the meal, both of them made their way to the restrooms while I just loitered outside, awaiting their return. The restroom was beside the travelator, so as per my usual attentive self, I started observing the people on the travelator. It didn't take long for me to notice a presumably secondary school couple in uniform hugging on the travelator.
Now, I am not condemning their actions. That scene just sparked off the topic in me about relationships. You see, for those who know me, I have already been in and out of a few relationships back then when I was young and reckless. I recall me seeing how some schoolmates in Secondary School just switch in and out of partners in a matter of months.
Back then, I feel like being a part of that, I feel that I should also have a girlfriend since others are having it as well. However, now that I look back at it, it's just marks and wounds and scars etched all over my memory and those affected. In relationships, people pound over nice-looking people rather than looking further into personality differences. In relationships, you tend to think that you have to protect your "beloved" half, and provide what you can to make her happy, monetary and sleep rest damages can be sacrificed for them. But, what happens if the relationship is over? You simply press the reset button and hope that the love bubble bursts without leaving any trace? That is where the mistake of getting into a relationship deepens.
Now that I have matured, I realised that now is the time to embrace the single life. If you are not ready or feeling immature enough to get into a relationship, then source for other hobbies to get yourself busy with. A relationship is not a hobby, neither is it something you should play around with. You affect more than just yourself if it goes wrong. I would not say that I am a love guru, but at least I learn from my mistakes and not make them again.
However, when the chance arrives, what should you do?
Final year into Poly, the commitment I set for myself still stands, albeit with signs of it disappearing getting more and more obvious. I have a crush (Yes, have, not had. You get what I mean!) that I am attracted to, not by her looks, but rather, it started off with her unique name that I chanced upon. I don't know her well enough, but at the very least I can say, looks were never on my checklist. I do hope that I can get to know her better, so that at the very least, I know that I will not regret taking the first step at making friends with her. Well, that even depends on whether she allows me to be her friend hahahaha!
If you think you are the one, please do not approach me. I will approach you when I am ready to face you in person.
Till next time,
Ryan zibin
13 May 2016
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